Winning a guy’s heart is not tough if you know the way to do that. Girls may fish around for diamonds and expensive gifts to be wooed, but men are much simpler. All they want is a little extra attention. If you want to make your man feel special and loved, here’s what you’ve got to do:
1. Look beautiful when you go out with him in public:
Guys love to flaunt their girlfriends. Looking beautiful doesn’t necessarily mean wearing lots of makeup. It means holding his arm and having lots of confidence and a huge smile.
2. Be one of his pals:
Guys don’t like being romantic and mushy all the time. No wonder they are always looking for a change to hang out with their boy gang. Dump your wine glass for a bit and pick up a beer with him. In other words, try and involve yourself in what he and friends like – things that you are not particularly fond of, but that’s the least you can do to make him feel special.
3. Seek his advice:
Yes, do this even for things that you don’t actually need advice on. This may sound like you’re pretending but you will actually be boosting his ego. Guys like it when you ask them for help. It can be help regarding an emotional problem or even a plumbing issue in the bathroom. Sometimes it is important to simply communicate to them that they are the ones you would look up to in case of a problem.
4. Shower compliments:
Throw in compliments on his impeccable taste in clothing, food and the fine things in life. Do this sparingly, you don’t want to overdo it and make it sound fake.
5. Praise his character in front of his family:
This is going to be invaluable to your guy. Subconsciously, men are always looking to seek approval from their family about their achievements. If you compliment him in front of his folks, he is going to feel oh-so-special.
6. Fix him a yummy breakfast:
Instead of having the usual toast and eggs, why not cook him a great pancake and maple syrup breakfast on a weekend? Small things like these will make him feel treasured.
7. Greet him with surprises:
Your daily routine of going to the office and coming back can take a toll on your love life. But unless you take initiative, nothing will sort itself out. Try something new every day. Greet your man with flowers or a nice drink or a surprise movie at your home theater.
8. Give him a massage:
Well, it doesn’t literally have to be a massage – you can even buy him a voucher for a spa therapy session. The point is to go out of your way and think of how he can relax and take some time off. If you notice him particularly tired on a certain day, give him a nice aromatic massage and see how it works wonders.
9. Take interest in his hobbies:
Your man will feel supported and cared for if you take interest in his hobbies. Try listening to the music he likes, the football games he watches or the books he reads. Talk to him about his hobbies from time to time.
10. Defend him:
It’s usually the guys who are always in charge of defending and protecting their women but you should take that responsibility too. If you witness anyone blaming your man, being sarcastic to him or trying to taint him, take charge and defend him in public. This will increase the respect that he has for you.
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Wow this sounds like a dominant male submissive female BDSM relationship. While they can also involve romance, I dunno this sounds a little too much like society trying to reinforce male privilege to me.
You do these things for a guy, because you want him to feel special – not to perpetuate a stereotype. I do all of these things for my boyfriend and I am a strong woman. I have opinions that he respects. He supports me and we stand as equals in our relationships.
No offense – but I honestly think that society needs to stop thinking in the way that you are on this subject. If we continue to think of a man as just another of all other males that in the past have suppressed women, we will never be equals.
The point of this article/list is to remind women in relationships that there are things that may make men feel special. I mean – really? Some women – like myself – want to make their boyfriends/husbands feel special and appreciated.
My boyfriend is one of the greatest PEOPLE I have ever met and I take every opportunity to do the things listed here, because he does the same for me. There is nothing wrong with wanted to make someone you love feel valuable and appreciated.
I agree whole heartly. Women want men to make them feel special, why shouldn’t we make them feel the same. My boyfriend loves me.He support me in everyway encourges me to follow my dreams and when im afraid to try something new he tells me to belive in myself and to try! I have learn to live and enjoy life and to do things i never thought possible. I want my man to feel as wonderful as he makes me feel. And i love learning how to make him feel love wanted and needed!!!!!!!
I completely agree with you! It’s give AND take in a relationship and if you think of your man in a few special little ways he will do the same for you!!
I agree with you shana. You make your boyfriend special because you love him and he loves you too. It’s not giving the man the authority. Being a strong, independent and a powerful woman doesn’t mean you stop making people who are important to you -feel special. C’mon, if you love your partner and he is “family” to you making him feel like that shouldn’t be an issue of who is submissive and everything.
When your mum or pop or even male friends give you presents on your birthday to make you feel special, does that mean they are submissive to you? If they cook food for you does that mean you are more powerful and independent from them? If you do something extra for your pet, say a puppy -are you making yourself less competitive of the puppy? If you go praise your man because of how well he have done something -is it being submissive? Well of course you can say a relationship with a man is different from the relationship you have with your parents, friends and pets. But if your man is significant to you it’s no biggie..:)
THE AUTHOR ISN’T PROMOTING A ONE-SIDED RELATIONSHIP. This article only gives tips on how women can please their man. By making other people feel special or in this case your man -is not telling a woman to “stop having needs and feelings and focus on what makes her man happy, regardless of how it affects her”. If that man doesn’t make you feel special then why stay on a relationship? THIS ARTICLE COULD BE A HELP FOR THOSE who want to return the love their mate has given to them. NOT A PROMOTION FOR WOMEN TO DISREGARD THEIR NEEDS AND WANTS.
My boyfriend pleases me more than I please him and this article gave me tips on how to return back the love..
‘CUZ IF he really loves you so much? -HE’D DO THE SAME THING TOO..:) it’s a give and take process you see. It’s the same as when you get respect if you respect that person.
From a mature, married, career woman…my spouse and I have been married for 37 years and I attribute our lasting relationship to the attention we bestow upon each other. It works both ways. Neither of us look upon it as being submissive on my part or overbearing on his. We do it because we love each other and we enjoy making each other feel good physically and emotionally. I have had a career that has spanned over 30 years and have not risen to the level I am at without strength. I know how to be strong and my self-esteem and strength is not diminished by the loving care I bestow upon my partner. These are some very good tips for sustaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
Thanks for the “seasoned” advice. The proof is in the pudding!
My next romantic partner will get more special attention from me!
my mom always told me to have respect is to give respect in a relationship or not and 2 love urself 1st befor u love ne1 else how can u love ur man if u dont love urself my mom always taught me and shes always right my husband and i love eachother in our own way and we dont need sociaty to tell us how to love and make some1 in life feel special we find ways of doin that on our own relationship requier honesty trust faithfulness ..u must have trust in a relationship or it wont go newere
Hi Annmarie. Your Mom is a very bright woman. I wish I had the advice you received early on…
Good for you and your hubby… We all need role models…
~Gereen~
nicest van you have hit the point the last part.
I agree with Shana . I love my husband very much and I enjoy letting him know how special he is to me.He does not take me for grated either. He is an amazing man and took extremely good care of me when I had surgery and could not take care of myself.I also let his family and friends know what a great guy I have and thanked his mom for bringing up such an amazing and thoughtful man. He also lets me know how much he appreciates me. We have been together for 32 years so we are doing something right.
so very true
Wow. There are women out there that know how to treat a guy that they really care about. And you know what? Those are exactly the things that will never let a man leave you.
It’s just too bad I have never met one of you.
I Agree with you 80% but though I am a chauvinistic Dominate Male and little bit Misogynist too but I think Love should be unconditional if he or she do not do anything for you & remain cold you should do you job in love without wanting any thing in return even someone hates you but you love him / her do love unconditionally.
let me guess…you dont have a boyfriend do you? after you go on the first date, how many return calls for the second date do you get…let me guess…NADA!?! You go n ask any woman married, happily married, for 20, 30, 40, especially 50 yrs, whats their key to success, theyll say the same things. Men and Women both have roles to play in a relationship, both have a different set of needs but the same desires except they are approached a bit differently thats all. Main thing is …keep the main thing the main thing..If you truly want a relationship, the house, the car, the two car garage, white “The One”, this stuff just comes naturally…if not, dont bother dating, get a dog and you can train him. or, find a guy that doesn’t have a hangup about “friends with benefits”..but dont get your panties in twist over issues that dont count. Dont like how others do things, fine ur entitled to your opinion. But the survey says: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. You need to love urself first, before you even begin to love a man, or anyone else for that matter. Youre gonna hafta fail and be miserable for a few years, endure pain and confusion, grow up and grow wise before ur even ready to commit, look up the definition and decide if youre serious enough to adapt and change and be flexible first. Real men do love independent woman, they just dont like the Miss Colonels of Control that force their opinion on them. Prepare to be lonely until you grasp that idea. After a while youll have gained enuff experience to finally see the that you will be that person above or be unhappy. Learn from other peoples success and mistakes.
no this is what a woman is
This does indeed sound like a very one-sided relationhip. The author is basically telling women to stop having needs and feelings and focus on what makes her man happy, regardless of how it affects her.
I don’t believe, in my 40 years of living, that I have ever seen an article or book geared toward men in this same fashion.
The positive thing about my relationship, however, is that my husband and I both do all of these things for each other – THAT is what makes a healthy relationship!
This article is not one sided. It’s giving you ideas on how to make a guy feel special. It may be impossible to believe that men have feelings or that they are sensitive. We do, but because of the way society is geared we cannot show it. Sensitive men are portrayed as gay or sissies. How are we supposed to be ourselves if we are ridiculed and rejected for who we are?
I love your article because it gives information and it helps me a lot to do some sort of sweetness to my special someone:)
Keep it up!
Thank you so much for being enlightened! I am so sick of hearing about how people twisting a simple article like this into a feminist issue. My boyfriend is one of the greatest people I have ever met. So is my father – and one of the main things they have in common is that they have ALWAYS been supportive in their relationships.
I can guarantee that this exact same list is published somewhere for how men can make women feel special.
It is wonderful when a man is sensitive enough to be open with his emotions. My boyfriend is, and I love him for it. He’s also able to hear me when I’m emotional, whether positive emotions or negative. A sensitive man is not necessarily a sissy, but if he doesn’t balance it with strength it would be harder for a woman to put her faith in him. For better or worse, a woman is typically looking for a partner that can make her feel safe and secure. I feel secure when I know my man loves me, and this article is simply recommendations on how to show appreciation for that and make him feel loved in return. All of the things listed really should be automatic and natural if you are truly in love. A woman who ridicules a man for his emotions couldn’t possibly truly love him. Ridicule is not in the vocabulary of love.
You agreed that it “sounded” one sided, but yet you say you and your Husband do the same for each other. Isn’t that what the article is saying? Men usually do these things for us, so we give back and once you both share those special moments, things should get better. It is not one sided, it’s only a learning tool for woman who don’t know what simple little things they can do to make him happy.
Actually, the very last article I read before this one was titled “10 ways to make your wife feel loved”. Yes, that too was “one-sided”. I guess it’s just about gearing the article to your readers. There are plenty of readings out there geared toward men. Its a two-way street, this relationship thing, and attempting to be a good girlfriend/wife/fiancee shouldn’t instantly be regarded as an anti-feminist act. Instead, it is a sign that you are overfilled with love and kindness and would like to pour some of this onto the one who deserves it and brought you to that point.
I like this article. Throughout the years, we have seen the change from subservient wife to wife-bitch ( from one extreme to the other)….no wonder there’s so much more failed relationships/divorces nowadays! If you want your man to be good to you, be good to your man. I think this is the point of this article.
i agree with you
I totally agree with this post. These are things that a woman should want to do for her man as long as he is doing what needs to be done plus more for his women. Women get so caught up in being Independent that they start to become man-ish and make man feel less wanted. I love to pamper my hubby because I know im super spoiled and a hand full so if I dont make him feel like he #1 after God another chick will. Its a 2 way street.
Karma you sound ghetto, what hood u from gurrrlll?
thats what im talking about i dont thnk you sound ghetto they tripping my dude is already talking about getting married and we only been together for 2 years
Wow I totaly agree with you on that.
Yes, that’s right. A long day at work might make your man feel neglected so you should bring him flowers to say you’re sorry. With such wonderful tips like this it’s no wonder most younger guys are either gay or look it.
The rest are alright, little iffy on defending your guy because if you do it wrong it’ll look like mommy’s protecting her precious little angel instead of your wife standing up for you.
i read about this topic and i just realize that every person sometimes need a space for their self,and it help us girls to realize that some guys need someone not to argue but to be their friends and jamming to their wants.and your correct by telling give flowers to guy to make it different because i tried it ones and my boyfriend is amaze and very happy.im glad to read some again of your topic…..thanks
I have been married 20 years and I an say with all certainty that most of this article was spot on. I agree that most men aren’t interested in flowers. They are however more than appreciative if you take as much time getting dolled up to spend time with them, even if its just watching TV as you do going out with the girls or to work. They need to know your willing to put in the effort too.
You can’t always have a headache or always act as though its his job to be the aggressor in the bedroom either. Men need to know that their woman wants them or they will go look somewhere else. Thats not submissive thats honest. I know and do submissive quite well. None of this is submissive. Its just good common sense.
If you can’t take the time to talk to him when he reaches out to you, let him have his space to unwind and breath or just simply make sure that you back him 100 percent even if what he is saying is a bit stupid then why are you with him? I don’t defend my husband. He doesn’t need me to defend him. But, I will stand by his side and agree completely with him even if I think hes lost his mind.
What I don’t understand is why women seem to think men need these things any less than we do. We are all humans. Conditioning doesn’t change the fact we all have egos and we all need to know how much we are loved and appreciated at times.
My boyfriend is so thoughtful and loving. Thanks for giving me some ideas on how to make him feel special too. I already do alot of the things you mentioned, just because I want to. I do not think the author was in any way trying to make women do things that are considered by some as “subservient”. If you truly love and care for someone and he or she is your bf, it would be a natural extension of that love to ocassionally try and make them feel special. Maybe, you should ask yourself if you are happy in your relationship “if”, you feel that trying some of the author’s suggestions to make yor man feel special, would make you feel subservient. I know what it’s like to be in a one-sided relationship, so it’s very refreshing to be in one that goes both ways.
i really appreciate how you educate we young livings. if i may ask how can you make you overcome boredom whenever you have a problem wit your guy?
That’s good advice if ur dealing with ur soulmate.It works both ways.That’s exactly what we women want our men to do for us.It’s a 2 way traffic.What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.It wouldn’t work if ur dating the wrong man just for dating sake.
I totally agree with all of them EXCEPT for number 10. Never ever ever in my life will I ever defend my husband to any other person except for female family members. I have already experienced the whole, don’t do that in front of a guy, hun, it makes me look weak, I can handle it my self, you’re not my mother. For my guy and my situation, that’s how it is for us.
THANK-YOU FOR THE SMART ADVICE YOU PUT OUT THERE. NO REAL CAREING MAN WANTS OR WOULD HIS WIFE OR BETTER HALF GETTING HURT DEFENDING HIM.
These are the many things to get him stimulated, show him how much you are into him. If there is no response, move ON. Please don’t ever mess with a married person, play second fiddle. There is nothing but heartache, shattering of a family or two units. Totally unethical.
thats true Van
I really liked this article now I know the things to do to make our relationship strong and to keep my husband happy and contended.
Thanks so much for these ideas. My husband and I have been having a few problems and I think that if I utilize some of these ideas things might improve. This was a great article to find!
How to please your man is easy …Oral sex.. That is the key to an happy relationship
FINALLY!! Someone speaks the truth! Preach on, Sista…Preach ON! Mind sharing this piece of advice with my wife?? HAHAHAHAHA
this is so selfless.,.,.,.,indeed.,.,!!
I can tell by the comments that so many women just dont get the article with is silly because it’s not a hard article to read. Believe it or not men have feelings too eventhough they rarely show it, once in a while tell him how hot you think he is or how much you appreciate him killing your spiders, they like it and it gives them a great ego boost just like we like when our hubbys or boyfriends tell us how pretty and sexy we are. If you dont say it some other chick will and more than likely he will leave you for her because you know what, the other girl makes him feel appreciated. All ladies should step up and start defending your man, I do it, if I hear another guy talking smack about my boyfriend even if it’s playfully I talk smack too I dont do it in a way to embarass my boyfriend but in a way where he knows I have his back. And that ladies is what this article is about, see not so hard.
its both our responsibilities to love and cherish each other not be one sided. my husband does not work i buy him clothes, i cook for him, i wash and do everything you can think of on a daily basis but he has become so lazy to look for employment infact is a spoilt brat
It’s so simple…. just treat him/her how you want to be treated, period.
i agree with this article 100%!!! and to those who think its one sided its title isnt how to make a relasion ship last or 10 ways you and your partner can make each other happy it clearly says 10 ways to make your man feel specel. its not supos to say they do stuff for you! and to tell truth im am totaly self dependent and strong woman dispite my flaws and i would totaly do anything to make my man happy littraly any thing!!! and i was doin this stuff before i evan read this article but looking at just that yea its one sided what u dont know is all the stuff he does for me. my man is my life. he is not only my best freind but he cleans our home, takes compleat care of our pets, does dishes, keeps track of all the bills, does all the shopping, takes care of all the paper work, and still gives me all of his attenchen all the time, he walks me to and from work, and will do just about any thing i ask him to. so why in the world wouldnt i want to do any thing i can to make him feel specel he deserves it. he is the best thing thats ever happened to me!!!!
It’s all about how much you care.
Ok well when you have consistently done about 8 of 10 of the recommendations from the get go for a few years– and you are married– yet continue to be ignored despite declarations of the love you do not feel so you taper off and now its about 2-4 of the recommendations and well read between the lines, then what do you do
Tell him that you don’t feel loved. There’s nothing that says you need to suffer in silence while trying to show him how much you love him. A relationship is a two way street. He should be working just as hard at keeping you happy as you have at showing your affection.
Your article has taught me a lot.i’ll be doing exactly like you’ve taught me.whenever i meet my sweetheart,i’ll be doing atleast one of these tips.
so much truth in this
I have learn something thanks very much and ill do as it is because most of the time i was discouraging my partener
This is a very goood article. Thank You For It. I think that if I would start to apply even a few of these suggestions to my marriage that it might actually not only improve our relationship, but actually may even save it. This article has made me realize just how much I tend to take my husband for granted. I t is not something that I set out to do intentionally, but I have just kind of fallen into a pattern of expecting him to do certain things. Now I can see how he could very easily feel unappreciated. And for those who think this is a one sided article, maybe we need to just stop and try to look at it from the man’s point of view. Believe me, I tend to be very demanding and at times even overbearing, but the one thing I think I do that is probably the most detrimental to our relationship is not to show my husband the respect he deserves as my husband. By this, I do not mean that I have to be subservient to him, but neither should I try to control him. In fact I believe that if I will actually start trying to show him that he matters more and that I appreciate the things he does for me and for us that he will naturally start to do the same for me. When you get right down to the truth, if you truly love someone, then you want only the best for that person. So why wouldn’t you want to make them feel special. I hope that I will start to incorporate more of these suggestions into our everyday lives. Thank you once again for the article and thanks to all the replies that have been posted. I think it was meant for me to find this article because this is truly something that I need to put into practice. GOD Bless You All and May You All Find True Love And Happiness In Your Relationships.
This is a great article for people that haven’t already realized these things. However, these are things I have already figured out, and it does work. For those of you that are saying this sounds “one sided” the article is titled “10 ways to make A guy feel special” Its not saying you have to do these things all the time. Its just somethings you can do here and there to keep your relationship strong and make your guy feel good about himself.
I wonder if any of the women that are discussing the issue of how to make your husband know you love him wouldn’t have looked into it if you weren’t interested in wanting him to feel loved. The problem is easy to answer I think, it is simply that if you don’t revive the needed attention from your spouse it’s hard to reciprocate and that kind of emotional damage can go in circles for years. It truely takes equal caregiving in order for both to benifit from a healthy and happy marriage. I have been in a difficult marriage for 15 years. He does Not typically shower affection on me and he probably picks on me more that picks me up. I think that everyone should evaluate their own relationships and try to notice when your spouse treats you the way you’d hoped he would. When you notice his positive behavior and reward him with being happy and loving back, then that “should” encourage him to give back. If you feel he never notices your efforts towards kindness to him then it is a good time to ask him if he would like to plan a date night. During the night at some point you should gently talk to him about how issated you feel and what it is that you wish he would do. I know it isn’t the same thing if he kisses you hello everyday when he wakes up or comes home only because you told him that would show you love- but at least you got the wheels turning! Ask yourself this question, “would I be happier if I left him or if he left me? Or would I be happy if the rest of my life stayed like this?” Each person has a love language and we can’t expect everyone to speak all of them. It is hard to make a marriage last. It requires strength, tears, convictions, encouragement, compassion, forgiveness and most of all love. Tonight my husband made love to me and then 30 min. Later he masterbated even though he knew I was awake and hadn’t put my pants back on from earlier. We have no kids for once in forever and yet there I laid akwardly wondering why he didn’t make an advance, not even a small stroke on the arm, just cold silence. I felt heavy with shame while he sexually pleased himself without any desire to involve me. So I left the room. I will not slap him or say a word about it until later today when I can confront the issue without being so defensive and angry about his obvious lack of interest. I fix him meals almost daily, I wash all the laundry and take care of our daughters without much help from him. But, he has never been a social person, shy by nature and works his ass off to provide me and the girls with the best life he can provide. So I guess since no one is perfect we all have to choose our battles in life and try to express our needs to our spouses the best we can and that goes for both husband and wife! As a child of the divorce generation-Good luck!
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