Relationships are here to complete our life. They are a part of healthy living actually. The thing is, there is no perfect relationship. Individuals become happy in a relationship because they find satisfaction and not perfection. If you look for a perfect relationship, you will never find one. Relationships can just add meaning to our life. They give colors to our world. However, there are relationships that make our life unhealthy, unproductive, and lonely. They get in our way and prevent is from growing. What are the indicators of an unhealthy relationship? Look for the following signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Lack of mutual respect. Respect is very essential in any relationship for without this you will never have a good one. There’s no happiness without respect. If you don’t give your partner a high regard then you don’t respect him/ her and more likely you are in an unhealthy relationship. this is actually one of the early signs of a bad relationship.
Poor communication. Another important key to make a relationship work is communication. You have to talk about your feelings and thoughts to your partner. If there’s something wrong, you have to talk about it. No issues will be solved if there’s no open communication.
Lack of honesty. Being honest to each other is very much needed. Once you lie about anything, it will give a feeling of betrayal which isn’t good.
Lack of trust. If you don’t trust your partner, you will never have peace of mind. You will have doubts all the time and that will make your relationship unhealthy. Those who don’t have trust in their partner have a problem with insecurity.
Controlling partner. Does your partner try to dictate you all the time? Is there a feeling that you cannot decide for yourself? If you say yes, you are definitely in a suffocating relationship.
Frequent arguments. Do you always fight over trivial things and there’s no compromise at all? Do you often shout at each other to the point that you even curse your partner? If your answer is yes, you are definitely in an unhealthy relationship.
Physical and emotional abuse. If there are instances that you feel physically or emotionally abused, then maybe it’s time to step out of the relationship. It’s not just unhealthy but it is abusive and hopeless.
No effort to spend time together. This means only one thing, that is, you don’t want to be with each other and you’d rather do other things with other people.
Once a relationship becomes a hindrance to your plans and it makes you feel that you can no longer breathe, consider stepping out of it. It’s suffocating and so unhealthy. Free yourself from it. Let go and move on. Letting go may be hard especially if you truly care for your boyfriend/ girlfriend but it’s the better thing to do. But if you think there’s still hope for what you have then find the solutions.
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The boy I am talking to likes to rough house with me and most the times I have bruies’ by him. He says he likes rough housing with me casue I fight back, but thats casue I grew up with boys. What should I do?
Char, communication is key to put an end of the rough plays that leave you hurt and bruised. I find it very effective when I use the I feel/when you… factual and non-threatening statements. Then follow through with what you would like. For instance, I feel very sad and hurt when you bunch my arm. I would love it if you hold me. I know, it sounds corny, but this has worked wonders for me. I hope it’ll help you, too.
Sounds like he’s immature and the fact you have to tell him he’s bruising you makes me think he has issues. These are the red flags.
if you stop playing rough house with him it will stop..he does it cuz you respond to it…next time just cry and say that hurts..he should then say hes sorry and hold and kiss you…use your girlness to stop the boyness/
Always a good job right here. Keep rloling on through.
My boyfriend works in cooperate america. I think of him in the mornings when I awake and at night before I go to sleep.my issue is he responds in the morning but very seldom will he at night. I have discussed with him how I feel about this. I feel he has someone else. I try to think that he is just busy…but my gut keeps telling me there is someone else. Can anyone shed light to my situation?
Sorry, but I would go with my instincts, if I were you.
It’s not that “Those who don’t have trust in a partner have a problem with insecurity.” Those who don’t have trust in a partner, often have partners who have proven that they cannot be trusted.
This one seems to vary a lot. Typically, if someone has been cheated on by someone else prior then tend to have trust issues. But personally, most often I’ve experienced that those that cannot trust, cannot be trusted.
I agree with Jackie. Trust is earned, not given without merit. Trust is the easiest thing to be given and the hardest thing to earn back after it is lost.
what if you are already husbands and wives and your answer to all those are YES. what will you do? how can you consider stepping out of your relationship?
I got married about 2 months ago after dating for 3 years. Lately my husband & I have been disagreeing and arguing constantly. He never wants to be intimate anymore, only likes spending time with his 6 year old son & always choses him over me. My husband has some health issues & sometimes it affects his libido. But since we’ve married our sex life is no longer existant & I’m really unhappy & whenever I try to talk to him about anything he blows up & blames me for the problem. I’m starting to regret getting married. What should I do?