Most people think that an affair with intimacy is worse, but an emotional affair can also cause great damage to a marriage. Is it true a relationship with just pure emotional attachment is not as bad?
An affair is not just about having a relationship with sexual intimacy, your husband can also drift away from the marriage even it is just emotional attachment with another woman. Imagine when your husband starts to share his problems with another woman and begin to look forward spending more time outside, will he still behave caring towards the family?
This is a common problem just like in drama show. Sometimes a husband may have crossed the borderline of a distance to keep with a female friend unknowingly and if a marriage he is facing has hit the verge of boredom and frustration, the emotional attachment will start to grow between him and the woman strongly. It usually occurs when there are problems in the marriage and the negative thoughts will push him deeper to form a different relationship. Emotional affairs often happen to be ladies around him, that person could possibly be his best girlfriend, colleagues, etc.
A husband who is involved in an emotional affair will lose interest and concentration towards the family. The sexual intimacy between you two may also lessen and become unexciting. You will also realize some changes in his character such as losing temper more easily and talking lesser.
If you note these changes in your husband and are aware of your husband’s emotional affair, you need to consider and think how you want your relationship to be. If you feel that you love your husband deeply and believe that things still can be worked out, put a stop to his emotional affair immediately before things move on further with that woman.
One way to this is to tell your husband how you feel about him being too close with another woman. Begin by letting him know that you are not comfortable with his close friendship in a calm and tactful manner. Make sure you speak carefully and not to throw tantrums. If you start by shouting and crying, your husband will only feel unhappy and probably think that the other woman is more understanding. This will push him to seek more attention from the other woman and moving their relationship to a deeper one. It is also possible for him to tell you they are “just friends” and may argue with you being too sensitive.
If you still suspect he is not going to end his emotional affair, this may be the time to give him an ultimatum. Tell him to make his choice and talk about the lovely time that both of you shared. Assure him things will still be the same but with him working together so that you can be assured too. If he finds the marriage important, he will try to save the marriage as well.
i like this topic gives me a very direct idea of extending a relationship that is dying because of longtime being together the spark is not there anymore,though this happen to us but still we are together and handle things more careful now…this article is great..
my husband is having an emotional affair with his staff who is by the way my friend, too. She is separated from her husband and has no children.It started when she was having problems then with her womanizer husband (talk of womanizing)My husband was ever willing to advise her what to do and by so doing they got comfortably close that the office protocol of “Yes sir” became “Honey”. All the things stated in the article are present in the actions of my husband. I have been patient and stayed loving and caring to him despite said affair.I do believe that this will come to end and thats just a spice of his menopausal age.Am constantly praying because I know prayers do wonders.. Miracles do happen!!
yes florenz! believe in miracle! God loves the impossible situations.. just keep praying with faith, hope & perseverance. Not looking at your situation, not hearing what he says or see what he do.. Just look at Jesus Christ who is far greater than your husband’s heart, God can change evrything in a nick of time, He knows our struggles, he knows our needs, he knows us deeper & better than we know ourselves, because he is our creator, God of all flesh, but we must seek His kingdom first & all things shall be added unto you! Godbless! wait for God’s perfect timing on changing your husbands heart & pray his eyes will be open..
Like this article. I can still fee the pain of going through this. Worst in my part is because it happened when I was pregnant. My husband said he regretted it badly and wants us to start anew but it is really difficult to move on sometimes.
this article reminds me that once my husband cheated on me.i felt very disappointed and humiliated about the said affair.I cried very hard.I wonder whats the problem why he did it.He was brave enough to tell me the truth.We talk,on how to save our marriage and family.But before that i let him know how much i love him,how important he is,how i wanted to save our marriage to last through eternity thats what we promise, and i let him choose Me or that girl.And he realizes that no one has ever loved and care the way i did. The family is more important than anybody else.
right.. I think we need more articles like this. like rodah., my experienced happened when i was pregnant., and I really felt sorry for myself because that happened not only once but twice, I really wanted to have a strong and happy marriage / family, that’s why I’ve accepted the fact that it really happened, & i wont let it happen again. We’re now moving on together, fortunately, I think my husband is more matured now and more responsible as a father and as a husband to me., I’m always praying that may he conquer all the possible coming betrayal and may we have a long and lasting, happily and strong family.
this happened to me and until now it still does.my husband and his sponsee are having an affair when this girl was rehabilitated being a drug addict.both she & my husband are now reformed addict as they call themselves.the closeness between them became an affair they call & text each other everyday..see each other and sleep together.caught them once in her place.she got a foreigner as fiance who believes her everyword of lies.my husband said they stopped already but i dont believed him since i can see him still secretly calls & text. aside from this girl he also still contact his X..i’m very much affected by his doings but it always end up arguing and patching things up..i’m like a living fool but cant do anything since he still lives with us and helps a lot in our business..i hoped i’m doing right
My fiance and I have been living together for 6 years now. A year ago, He had an emotional affair with his secretary. I confronted him, and said it was nothing because they never had a sexual encounter. I didn’t know how to explain to him (since he assumed that he was innocent) that an emotional realationship is as hurtful as having sexual relationship to someonelse but me. He promised since then that he would stop his communication to this woman, but I never know if he really did. He moved to a different office also.
my husband cheated on me with his exgirlfriend.i caught them flirting from his facebook account which i have access.he said so many bad things about our marriage.now, my marriage is starting to fall apart. my husband is in africa now.he’s been there for 4 months now.since he got there he started communicating and with his ex.i haven’t talked to him since i caught him flirting with her.this is not the first time i caught him doing that.i’m all fed up.and i have decided to let go of him.when he comes back next year we will just talk about the support of our 2 kids.
I like the article it reminds me to be strong and have faith in our marriage that no matter what that girl have to attract my husband we will never part because she’s not that worth fighting for. She only wants our relationship to go astry and let my marriage be broken. This i will not allow. I promised that our marriage is for keeps and till forever…that’s how i loved my husband..
i also experienced the same pain when i learned that my husband is having an affair with a girl whom he called a close friend. the most painful day was when the husband of this woman came to the place where i worked and told me about his wife and my husband’s sexual affairs aside from having a business together which is beyond my knowledge.. my husband admitted they have a business and was about to tell me but forgot. the husband of this girl told me that his wife and my husband had sex at a one motel in the city and even commented that there are lots like them having sex that very moment. i confronted her about this but denied everything to death. we are still living together but every now and then, we fight because the picture of them having sex always coming back to my mind. my husband now acts differently and is so silent and is looking at nothing.
hi..im married for almost 3yrs. my husband and i are in long distance marriage relationship for work reason but he still comes home monthly and stay for a couple of days. early year of our marriage i never thought of any bad things about him until one day, i was cleaning our room and check his passport. i tried to ask him if he ever gone somewhere without telling me but he just told me no. i wanted to confront him but i decide not to and just observe first.now i find myself crazy evryday thinking if he’s been lying to me or cheating on me.
I am married for 29 years and my husband is working outside the country. I was able to know his affair upon reading his conversation with the girl thru his yahoomessenger because i can access his account. I was hurt when he was started talking against me that I was having an affair when in fact I didn’t have. I was really despised because having not heard those sweet words for long long time. So I confronted my husband thru chatting to choose between the girl and me because I could give him his freedom if he wishes to with me being a hindrance to his affair. At first he was angry and telling me to prove those things and the more he was trying to woe the girl often and telling her that I already consented their affair. With this I strongly told him that I wont let him choose between us but rather decided to let him go because I have evidence of his cheating. And with my freedom I would start looking for another. This frightened my husband that he started getting sick at work and even hospitalized. He asked for forgiveness and promised not to do it again. With us to start all over again.
When it comes to affairs, a lot of time and energy is needed to get past the initial thoughts. The psychological blocks at the beginning of knowing the affair has to be dealt with lots of maturity and persistence. And to end up making the relationship a lot better after the extramarital relationship is possible but it takes a great deal of commitment and effort towards the partner.|Lot of people build a lot of animosity on the partner because of the affair. And this is actually difficult to overcome if ignored. Managing our own emotions is really essential and knowing the root cause which pushed the spouse or the partner to have the affair should be known. In addition this gives a greater understanding of the specific situation.|If you are facing an affair don’t just believe that things will certainly workout on its own. One should face all of them and deal with them. Additionally I think that it must be really important to understand if the partner is absolutely sorry and also feeling bad about their affair or not. Keep the communication going good. Also I found a helpful info here husband having affair what to do. Thanks for the post & Have a good day.cheers!