Most people think that an affair with intimacy is worse, but an emotional affair can also cause great damage to a marriage. Is it true a relationship with just pure emotional attachment is not as bad?
An affair is not just about having a relationship with sexual intimacy, your husband can also drift away from the marriage even it is just emotional attachment with another woman. Imagine when your husband starts to share his problems with another woman and begin to look forward spending more time outside, will he still behave caring towards the family?
This is a common problem just like in drama show. Sometimes a husband may have crossed the borderline of a distance to keep with a female friend unknowingly and if a marriage he is facing has hit the verge of boredom and frustration, the emotional attachment will start to grow between him and the woman strongly. It usually occurs when there are problems in the marriage and the negative thoughts will push him deeper to form a different relationship. Emotional affairs often happen to be ladies around him, that person could possibly be his best girlfriend, colleagues, etc.
A husband who is involved in an emotional affair will lose interest and concentration towards the family. The sexual intimacy between you two may also lessen and become unexciting. You will also realize some changes in his character such as losing temper more easily and talking lesser.
If you note these changes in your husband and are aware of your husband’s emotional affair, you need to consider and think how you want your relationship to be. If you feel that you love your husband deeply and believe that things still can be worked out, put a stop to his emotional affair immediately before things move on further with that woman.
One way to this is to tell your husband how you feel about him being too close with another woman. Begin by letting him know that you are not comfortable with his close friendship in a calm and tactful manner. Make sure you speak carefully and not to throw tantrums. If you start by shouting and crying, your husband will only feel unhappy and probably think that the other woman is more understanding. This will push him to seek more attention from the other woman and moving their relationship to a deeper one. It is also possible for him to tell you they are “just friends” and may argue with you being too sensitive.
If you still suspect he is not going to end his emotional affair, this may be the time to give him an ultimatum. Tell him to make his choice and talk about the lovely time that both of you shared. Assure him things will still be the same but with him working together so that you can be assured too. If he finds the marriage important, he will try to save the marriage as well.