If you’ve ever wondered why the men you’d like to have a romantic relationship with end up just being your friend and romance seems like a distant memory, you are in good company with thousands of other women.
Many a times women are left wondering why a man doesn’t notice all the things that she does for him, including being the perfect prospective girlfriend by doing all the ‘right’ things.
Despite what we have been traditionally told to do as women, doing some of those things trigger men to treat women exactly the opposite way of the desired outcome. So here are the Top 5 reasons, why he treats you like a friend and not a lover, and why he ignores you instead of sweeping you off your feet!
5. A Tomboy – Rest assured that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with this and by nature you are likely to have an unusually high percentage of male friends. You also get along easily with them, and are one of the boys. When a tomboy grows up into a ‘woman’ they often struggle with trying to reconcile the aspect of remaining friends with guys and having a romantic relationship as well. The more masked your feminine side, the more difficult this transition will be as men view you as a familiar friend, and will be conscious of the barriers that you put up, which signals them to be your friend and keep their distance without progressing any further.
4. The Perfect Girlfriend – You cook, clean, iron his t-shirts and mend his socks and perform a variety of other tasks which most women are inclined to perform when they like a guy. This can lead to two conclusions: where the woman transforms into a doormat and the guy will stay with her as he gets everything delivered to him on a silver platter. The other conclusion is that a guy will stay with her for a while, but he will start to get bored, which is one of the biggest issues in this type of relationship and start looking elsewhere.
3. Superwoman – This type is rather attractive to men, especially as these girls seem to have got it all together, and they don’t need any help. Men are drawn to independent, self-reliant and upbeat women at the start, and they might even end up marrying them and having a family. They might not like to admit it but after some time, the men start to feel inadequate especially if you have too much self-reliance and have difficulty being vulnerable or are busy all the time being a perfect wife or a mother.
2. Plain Jane – We don’t mean looks-wise. You are the average girl who has her good days and bad days and have the ability to have healthy and long-term relationships. Where it goes wrong for you, is agreeing to move in too quickly with a guy, and running away from notions of being too hard to get or being apprehensive about having some high standards for yourself. Relationships experts always say, that you should never tolerate bad behaviour in a man and this applies to you because you tend to be easy-going with dates that turn up late or do anything that you rather they didn’t. Men love to push the boundaries to see what they can get away with, and a plain Jane tends to stop trying after a while which can get you both in a rut, and start acting like neighbours rather than lovers.
1. Needy Nelly – To put it short you rely on your man too much. Men enjoy this at the start of a relationship as it can make them feel powerful and taps into their masculine energy, to help you, to fix things for you and literally ‘rescue’ you like a damsel in distress. However a prolonged exposure to this type can take a heavy toll on a man’s already limited emotional capacities and the backlash will be that he will completely distance himself from you or maintain a comfortable distance where he no longer provides you emotional support which can lead to unfulfilled and resentful relationships.
After all the doom and gloom, the good news is no matter what type/s you might identify with, there’s a way for a man to immediately view you as irresistible and desirable just by changing your approach. Keep an eye out for the next article on how to progress from being friends to having a fulfilling and a loving relationship.
Rachel Bandara is the Founder of Number One Woman and Passion Pursuits blogs. Check out more of Rachel’s articles, resources and recommended books at http://www.rachelbandara.com.