Many women are under the impression that they have to look like a super model to be attractive to a man. When men are asked about what they find attractive about a woman, they are not nearly as picky as the standards that women tend to hold themselves against. Men do not notice every extra pound on a woman, and most men do not expect a woman to be flawless like the women in magazines.
In fact when men are surveyed about what they find physically attractive in a woman, there are only a few qualities that are mentioned over and over again. To master the qualities that most men mention regarding what makes a woman attractive, you don’t need to radically transform your appearance. With a little effort you can easily make yourself more attractive to men by following a few of the simple guidelines listed below.
Long Hair- One of the first characteristics that men mention when it comes to what makes a women attractive is long hair. This doesn’t mean that you need to grow your hair down to your waist, but if you normally wear your hair cropped short, you may want to consider letting it grow to shoulder length. If you love to wear your hair in a no fuss short haircut, you may dismiss the appeal of long hair, but it is likely that you still understand that men prefer longer locks.
If you’re not convinced keep this in mind. Most stylists will tell you that the first request that they receive from newly divorced women reentering the world of dating is that they want to grow their hair longer. So it seems that women realize instinctively that long hair is more appealing to men, even if they don’t always choose to follow that instinct.
High Heels- Men love high heels. Of course women know that legs of any shape and size look sexier in a high heel, but they are definitely not as comfortable as a flat shoe. You don’t have to choose a four inch heel stiletto to add appeal to your look. A nice heel that is relatively comfortable will make your legs look better and is likely to make you feel sexier too!
Dress Like a Woman- To complete the high heel look, you should choose a skirt or a dress for maximum appeal. Feminine clothing is designed to accentuate all the features that make the female form attractive to men. Unless you are heading out on a date where you’ll be hiking or participating in some outdoor activity, skirts or dresses are the right choice to make you look and feel feminine and attractive.
Smile- It’s amazing how important a simple thing like smiling can be. Many women make the mistake of trying to retain a neutral expression. Whether you are out on a date, or you are out hoping to meet that special someone, be sure that you are wearing a smile. Men often site that if giving a choice between two women they will choose to approach the woman who has a pleasant expression on her face even if they find the other woman more attractive. We naturally gravitate towards people that look happy and confident, so put on that smile and give yourself that edge.
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you don’t have to change your lifestyle if you think and carry yourself go on girls have a self confident is enough no need to add more.
i iove high heels as a woman but i really hate seeing a woman who struggles with them
A womans attitude can turn a man off quickly!!!!
you’re right…..
Go girls, just dress like a lady and you will have the guys going wild and smile whilst doing so.
my man finds high heels unnatractive…
Why didn’t he like high heels
Too bad I am 1.85 cm and can’t wear heels.. hope I will meet a man who doesn’t mind that
unless he wants me to be almost 2 meters when he walks next to me!
i have the EXACT same problem
Well, The high heels thing looks nice but flats can be sexy too! But everything else is to the T. Remember, SMILE!
It is true that most men including myself like women that have long hair, dress very tastefully, smile, and have very good qualities which is exactly what I prefer in women.
Truly my auburn hair past my waist has been a man catcher. Also my green eyes are great ! My great smile well what can i say.Im short 5’4″ but powerfull!My favorite sports Football.Ilove my harley to. Ok boys wipe the drool off your chin.
ur kidding right????????
ok, hon, you’re a douche. didn’t your mama ever tell you not to brag about how attractive you are? probably fake, anyway.
I find some of the statements here interesting. ” didn’t your mama ever tell you not to brag about how attractive you are? probably fake,”…. excuse me, but she is what she is. If that is the experience Pernie had/has, then why are you attacking her if she is stating what her true experience is? If your attractive your not allowed to share your experiences??? lets stop being so “judgmental”
you forgot the thongs, they love long hair, high heels a beautiful smile and a thong!! you are now good to go -
Ive noticed that more guys like the boy short look with a little booty out the bottom! lol
Long hair, smiles, legs; high heels or not doesn’t matter….Perfect list!
Either im a weirdo or these ppl need to get their facts right cuz i kind of perfer a woman who loves to wear sporty outfits that are more comfortable for her not that i dont mind a skirt and heels i just like a sporty comfident girl that knows shes good looking and doesnt try too hard to show it.
I think a women can pull off just about anything as long as she has a positive attitude and outlook on life. Whether its heels, flats, loafers lol and more importantly what an indivudual is looking for.
What happened to self-confidence and self-acceptance? To be contented in your own skin…
After a certain age, and it differs with us all, if we don’t have self-confidence and self- acceptance, we are setting ourselves up for feeling unhappy with what we have left. Yes, it all goes, the legs, the booty, the luscious full head of hair. Keep the smile!
thank you! dont get me wrong i wear heels at work but all other times im either in riding boots( props to my fellow harley rider), sneakers or sandals. sweats are a must when im not in jeans.
Very smart chap!!!!!!!!!!
All the things mentioned are correct but all of you overlooked one thing most of us guys don’t like, too much makeup. It makes the Lady look put on and out of step with the other Ladies who are there. I love a Lady who can look GREAT in either casual clothes or dressed up for an event and have fun at either. Paloma, you mentioned “a thong” I like bikinis as well on Ladies but then you could also go “commando” and really surprise him.
Lol Marc I love your way of thinking! I would like to copy what i just posted with your message, i was kinda saying the same thing but in a womens words
I think a women can pull off just about anything as long as she has a positive attitude and outlook on life. Whether its heels, flats, loafers lol and more importantly what an indivudual is looking for.
I totally agree with you.
My boyfriend likes me better without makeup!!
yeah you right but it depends on a person if she or he have high sex appile>….and to become more attractive is you have a god fearing,…right???????????//
Sorry tarts! I’m gender neutral and I wear my combat boots and army jacket. Can’t handle it? Tough tooties. Most American men are way too feminine for me. I find that gay men are way more masculine than straights plus I love the challenge. Turning them is way fun. Then I move to the next guy. And I surely don’t do it while wearing heels although my hair is down past my waist! XD
i also love high heels and long hair, and he do aooreciate it whenever i wear them
I am a widow. I met my husband right after my mom had died. I cried all day on Christmas Day. I fell asleep and was very hungry, went across the lawn to the backyard and I met him at his mom’s house for a Christmas dinner, the way my hair was…all messed up and I did have a perm cause of my mom’s funeral so it was not fixed up. I was wearing some old clothing that was never really intended for a date.
He fell in love with me at that given dinner. I did not wear no make-up at all, I never really bathed, never really showered. But I was a mess. My mother died in Oct and here it was Christmas Dinner. So, I was not in no real state of mind to meet no one. I did not even have any real life in me at all. I was depressed, upset, most of all sad. So, whoever said that you have to be so spriffy and jazzed up to have someone care for you. He then died 7 yrs after I married him. Now I am home on the computer looking again for MR. RIGHT. I go through them like candy but my smile, my laughter, my looks and my sexuality? It does not go far. I am over 50 now and my health is now gone bad. So, I am not looking for someone who will want me for my looks or personality. Most men are looking for trust, honesty, faithfulness and most of all, to be themselves. So, don’t listen women. Some men think if women overly dress? Put on make-up where high heels? Low cut outfits and such? Looking for one thing only. Some men turn their heads to that. Most men want a conservative woman who looks like going to church. If you dress like a church goer? It will go a longer way. A man wants to bring his woman home to his family. Not to a hotel, a man who takes you to a hotel? They are not interested only in that and only that. When your date brings you home for a dinner? Then you have your man from the start. If you lose a man over stupid stuff? There is more men out there it is like the sea, plenty of fish out there in the sea. My mom said it is like a ball game. You have to sometimes make them strike out and then get a whole new team later on. Get a new batch. Never burn your bridges either. Always keep those open and keep crossing over that bridge. I burned all mine and now I lost all my old boes that I use to date before my husband married me. My loss now.
So so true, you don’t have to blow your self up, being yourself is the only way, the truth about ourselves comes out in the wash sooner than later. Why butter it up, be yourself. I couldn’t imagine a man dressing to the hilt and months, years later he’s the biggest pig ever.
Sorry for your loss. As a man, I agree a lot with the article as well as some of your statements. A man does want someone a) who he can be himself with, b) a good friend, c) can take home, then to any other social outing (optional), d) lower on the drama scale, e) solid values
The article does NOT state a man wants low cut dresses and all of that. The most important is a smile/laughter. Other things can be within reason (size, etc), but some men love big women too and smile and hair and pleasant or friendly personality will have the same affect on those guys who like larger ladies.
The article is speaking of the GENERAL likings of men, as there are some exceptions. To increase ones odds, the article gives a good perspective of where to start to increase ones chances.
@ Rhonda, i realy loved ur comment nd very obssesed with ur love story.. may God bless u nd ur late hubby..!!! and for those who realy likes long hair, high heels etc etc so go nd enjoy a night ladys, cuz i completly agree with Rhonda not all men are same some of wants faithful, trust worthy, and honest and sincere lady or homie for their home and life….THANK YOU
i love the post i ahve also long hair, but i cnt wear highy heels cus im 5.7″… AND except all of these my boy loves me alot….!!
@ Rhonda, i realy loved ur comment nd very obssesed with ur love story.. may God bless u nd ur late hubby..!!! and for those who realy likes long hair, high heels etc etc so go nd enjoy a night ladys, cuz i completly agree with Rhonda not all men are same some of wants faithful, trust worthy, and honest and sincere lady or homie for their home and life….!!
THANK YOU
I mean no disrespect but you are all as boring as hell! I thought I’d stop in and score a new tip or two, but that’s not the case. You are all saying the same thing, over and over and over again and none of you even register the fact. Is this all you have to think about? Attracting a man? WTF? Please…do not have children. Compulsory Sterilization, WE NEED You!
hoorah…that’s what I’m say’n
well it seems to me that women like you are the ones that need the steriliztion, you probably look like a man and are jealous of the women that try to attract men. i have found that the ones that dont wish they could , but are either insecure, gay, overweight, emotionally handicapped, or man haters. and i am pretty sure i know which one you are . And by the way men do not find profanity in a woman desirable.
Ok. Dress up and make the most of you to attract all men! Then what? You got all the attention, and your man will be jealous accusing you cheating. And all these girls will hate you and accuse you flirting their men. The bottom line of all of these. You are a bitch!!
Well ladies and gents. I’ve had it all and I’ve had none. I’ve done it all and I’ve done none. What to do what to do. Currently I’m married without a plan to a man that I thought adored me, I’ve had the hair, the makeup, the dress up, and the dress down. I like me, I talk loud, I use colorful language, I’m smart, I can hold my own up against any man, I’ve given birth naturally to three amazing human beings and raised them on my own, I can change a tire, my oil, a pea trap, a drip, and cook a 6 course meal while wearing heels in pearls. WTF I’m tired of changing my personality to please a man when they can’t change to fit me. Why do I have to change my ways, is it so hard for a man to change his ways. I happen to love Birkenstocks and Converse and swearing I can’t help it that I talk loud and this fucking hair gets on my nerves, and as for boobs they’re annoying as hell stop grabbing them while I’m doing dishes it just makes me want to kick you in the balls…and it doesn’t feel good to grope sorry boys whoever told you that it did was wrong just because you like how it feels in your hand doesn’t mean it feels good to me…Hour glass curves fetch me a 6 pack and then go work on yours
Hilarious! You go girl! Soooooo true! So much advice on “how to keep a man”, how to please a man, how to attract a man, etc., etc.!! HELLOOOOOOOOO!!! What about US ladies?? Do you see them sitting in front of their computer trying to figure out what to do for us?? How to please us in every way? I’d show up for a date in nice pants, nice top, high heels, all done up, and he’s there in an old polo and jeans! When’s the last time a guy showed up at your door with a bouquet of flowers for no reason? Ever?? or maybe you don’t care for flowers (I do), but anything that you might like…or what about planning an entirely romantic evening…all on him? The way I see it is that men seem to think they have all the power and get us all twisted up in our underwear! Stop the games! No one has power over the other! The facts are to be a lady and hopefully he will be a true man. Be yourself! If he doesn’t like it, he can walk on. Same for you…if you end up clicking with someone who is acting themselves from day one, it won’t be such a struggle. It’s exhausting trying to always be “ON”.
You got it right, it is about time we stop this men bull cos they are a pain in the ass, lazy fxxxxxrs who want to leave all the work to women my question is men are not gods why do women spend their time trying to keep a man and feeling miserable if they do not succeed,? get out there and do things that make you instead of wasting time on a man, relationships these days do not last, travel the world and see its beauty, more satisfying,
Your so wrong I really get tired hering all men are alike. i guess that goes for women too??? I start every new dte with flowers, and progessively as the relation ship builds so do the little gifts, women like to be pampered and surprised, but i like feminine, not I m as strong as you, so what if you may be, be a lady, and if you cuss like a silor, do not let me hear it, be a lady just because you can ladies doesny mean you should , if you have been dateless for a while look at the reason why.A nd please never, never, go on a date dressed nice either dress, skirt, jeans etc. and then show up wearing flipflops. what a turnoff, if you do you just dont care and you are lazy. if you were to call me and say i cant go out looking like this all i have is flipflops, I will go out and buy you a pair of shoes.Think ladies we still deisre nice women, LADIES.
Lisa, I firmly believe the adage that “men are from Mars and women are from Venus”. We are different creatures when it comes to love. Yes, it’s “common sense” that guys should get girls flowers & cards etc but most guys don’t really care for that particular stuff for themselves so it may get lost in the middle of all the sports, cars and work they think about. If your boo forgets, give him a nice reminder that you’re a lady and ladies appreciate flowers, therefore…where are my “just because” flowers? Putting it on his radar is important. Just like he sometimes would like to remind you to dress “nicely” (whatever his definition of that is) every once in a while. Communication is very important and surprisingly effective at times! And hey, if you remind him and he still doesn’t get it and that bothers you enough that the good doesn’t outweigh it, then obviously he’s not the right guy to make YOU happy…whatever it is that it takes to make that happen. So tell him thanks for the memories and go find yourself someone who Is your prince charming instead of staying in a relationship where you’re making the both of you miserable. Like you said, be “you”, I-want-flowers-on-a-Monday-just-because and all, and if he doesn’t like that and isn’t willing to appease you, he can go find someone who Is his type.
You are my idol…
Keep being amazing, Cyndi.
lol sigh.. what will happen of this world where we live with such shallow people…I mean what about having a great personality. I guess sadily we all do judge a book by its cover. Yes ladies unfortunately you may get a guy that way, but dont expect the guy who doesnt like you for your totally stripped version to love you for who you are. The right person will yes appreciate these but should love you for your heart, mind and soul. That aside, if you expect us to be dolled up for you all the time PLEASE RETURN THE FAVOR AS WELL!! Just because we turn you on by the way we look dolled up doesnt necessarily mean that we dont expect the same from you.
Cody wants me to have long hair but since I’m in the military, it’s easier to maintain with it being short, so I promised him that I would grow it long when I get out.
oops it just depend on the love that your boyfriend have towards you,am short hair,i only wear very flat shoes,and i dont go for make ups,but hey my boyfriend loves me so much,just be who you are,
I like this post but don’t at the same time. Not all men like the same thing. I for one know that i can’t look at a guy and go wow he’s hot without knowing his personality cause you can be the hottest person in the world yet the biggest DICK! Same goes for women they may be pretty and all that but the worst thing in the world is someone that thinks they are better than someone else!! I love my boyfriend very much and it has taken us sometime to really understand eachothers personalitys as it should anyone in a relationship. Be yourself and love you other half for who they are if you can’t do either one then you aren’t with who you should be with never settle for less than what you deserve!! I wouldn’t trade places with anyone in the world right now. I love my personality and i know damn well i’m a good person i always say i think i’m a half way decent looking girl but my personality is outstanding and for that reason alone my man is attracted to me!!
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear!! This is an insult to men. And regarding the long hair issue….. some women look and feel sexier with short hair… it depends on your face shape and how the cut makes you feel. I much prefer my hair short and most men tell me I look sexier that way.
I suppose you will be telling us all to get boob jobs next because most men prefer bigger tits! Lol!
NO I PREFER SMALL BOOBS, BUT I DONT JUDGE A WOMAN BY HER BR SIZE. JULIE MOST MEN DO PREFER LONG HIR , BUT I GAURANTEE IF YOUR HAIR IS SHORT BECOMES YOU, AND YOU TAKE CARE OF IT MEN WILL LOVE IT, ADD A SMILE AND YOU ARE IRRESISTIBLE TO MOST MEN.
A relationship is full of emotions. Longhair and high hills work when going out on a date for dinner. When you are married or dating to find compatibility, you will find enjoyment sharing space while walking, cooking at home, playing with children, camping, painting the house, etc. To get the most out of those occasions I would expect to see her hair up and wearing comfortable shoes. For the most part I am happily married. We have five kids so I know my wife let’s down her hair to show me the “wow” factor when the emotions are appropriate for the activity. I love and I am very attracted to my wife now more than ever. Why? She seems to know that her beauty is more than long hair and a feminine figure because she knows how to “respond” to my emotions in a way that strengthens us even when being a pretty lady is not easy.
There is no doubt in my mind that a genuine smile is sexy!
I thought the criteria were simpler than that: (1) walks on 2 legs (instead of 4), (2) not too much body hair (to rule out the other primates), (3) recognizably female (to rule out males) and maybe (but not necessarily) (4) young and healthy enough to have kids, even if kids are not in the works.
Other criteria are utilitarian and are discretionary; (5) such as not being too suburbanite (or too ghetto) in terms of body shape — by which I mean too overweight and/or too reliant on the car and/or bus, as many from the suburbs and ghetto are; (6) not living either of the lifestyles that lead to bodies of that shape (because nobody under 30 wants to be stuck in the time warp of the 1950′s car culture anymore and we got health insurance to think too much about to have to deal with the medical costs of leading that kind of life); (7) athletic (so as to be able to endure the long sessions of love-making at nights and in the mornings; plus it’s no fun being with someone who does nothing more than veg out in front of the TV all day, while you’re trying to drag them outside to have some fun).
But (5), (6) and (7) are not specific to women, so it’s not just women — nor mates. Even guys and even friends fall under (5), (6) and (7) … except for the lovemaking part.
I’ve realized that guys like confidence. I used to have a low self esteem because I’m super tall and skinny (5’11″ and 135 lbs). What I’ve realized is that no matter how tall I am, guys tend to like me better when I’m confident in myself. It’s not like I can change my height, so I might as well embrace it. I feel pretty good about myself now. As far as makeup goes, I do wear a little eyemakeup and a little face makeup to cover blemishes and whatnot. I actually feel more confident with my makeup on because it makes me feel pretty. I do have really long hair, and I love it (:
To joe: I am a wife and mother. I found most of your comments to be right on. My husband and I have been madly in love since the day we met. When we met I was right out of high school, very confident, always in skirts and high heels (as was the dress code) hair done nice every day, and natural looking make up. Now all that was good and all. But he says he decided I was “awesome” lol in our first conversation. We were on our way to the mall. (we being he, my best friend/ex boyfriend, and I) they were roommates and the ex introduced us. Lol anyways we all were on our way to the mall, which I hate! And we passed around roof barn. Id never seen one it was beautiful with its faded paint abd old lime stone foundation. My husband is and was a cabinet, furniture maker, and builder from iowa. He says the genuine joy and excitement he saw in me about something so simple was what brought him to the “i want her” place. Hope my silly story helps women understand that a smile is great, but genuine joy is breath taking and life changing to a man. Being a lady is always attractive. Lol even if a sware word passes my lips every once in a while. Lol I usually blush and he thinks it’s cute though I find it embarrassing. Lol I’ve never been skinny mini, prolly bigger than average all my life, and after 3 babies in less than 3 years I have work to do. But it’s stillll the genuine joys that keeps him so excited about me. I’m the first to get to the door when he returns from work, because I’m genuinely missing him and wants him home. So I’m his girl, his woman he longs to hold and if ya wanna love like that high heels won’t cut it.
Well My Fiancee LOVES my hair short, and he loves that I dont always dress up, because in his eyes and mine, im only dressing up for him, which is true, I never wear make up when I go out to run errands. I feel like if i show him that i only dress up when we are at home even if only wearing it around the house, then he knows im doing it for only him. Secondly, my fiancee loves that i wear his shirts that are bigger on me and he loves that I wear my cute little pj pants and a tank top. Third, he HATES when i wear heals, because he looks at heals as “trashy” hes perfectly fine with me wearing my sneakers and in the summer, my sandles… So I guess when it comes to looks I got LUCKY because my love loves that i dont do or have those things, In actuality he has told me he loves my short hair better, so i cut it just for him, but i was a little scared because he has always dated women with long hair. But in his words he doesnt want me to be like them. Im a very tiny girl normally but after I had my last son I gained a few extra pounds , and he tells me he loves that i have curves, I swear I have the romeo of this day and age lol. But I guess it goes to show that all men are differant , just like all women are differant, We all like differant things, But just to let you know.. Ive always preferred guys with dark hair and green eyes. but he has blonde hair and blue eyes, and though ive never typically been attracted to that type, Im so attracted to him, and he has curly hair , ive never liked curly hair, but i just love his.. So i guess what im saying is looks arent everything.. you can fall in love with someone with thier looks, but they are only skin deep, and who wants to be with someone who is fake and always wants to be the center of mens or womens attention. I surely dont.
Just be yourself, yes i like women with long hair(red haired ladies rock)you don’t have to look like a model to be attractive, respect yourself, wearing clothes that show half your body doesn’t sit well and to me that isn’t very sexy. a woman with morals and values, sure of herself and smiles often has my attention.
You being so beautiful does not realy attract men
I have had short hair all my life, I have a small face and big green eyes, and a small frame and alot of hair when it grows in, I resemble Halle Berry and my short hair didn’t stop me from meeting men. I think it all depends on what a woman feels comfortable in, we shouldn’t have to change ourselves for a man!!!!
Word power helps if your open and involve your crush/bf/hubby in your problems he will open up to u.
“if something is hard don’t stop trying just try harder ”
Sometimes men don’t know if your into them, so women “who said girls can’t make the first move?”
Go get’em girls!
what about what makes you comfortable with yourself as a women, i mean whats the point of pleasing someone while you as a woman you are not happy,,,Different men like or are attracted to different kinds of women so i think a woman should herself so as to attract her kind of men.
I think its all about theramones. Iv’e seen the prettiest women with the ugliest men and vice versa, and Iv’e seen good looking people lack confidence to a point they I also belieive its how you connect on a mental and spiritual level more mental in most cases and the emoitional needs that you fill fot the other. I think people put best foot forward up to catch someone and after they catch them do nothing to keep them. I like the saying ‘what you see is what you get”.